Sunday, December 13, 2009
Planning
Daddy + chainsaw = tree for our home!
It is very hard to think about the next year (post graduation that is) and plan for an unknown job at an unknown place, with both boys at unknown locations/schools.
A whole lot of unknowns to sort through!
if a then b, if b then c
if a then c?
Who will hire me? Where will my kids get into school? How will we make this work?
The holidays to survive the darkness
I know, I know, we have coal trains running 24/7 to keep us in light, but still. It's not the same when it's dark outside, and especially freezing like lately. That's why I am thankful for the holidays, and for all the wacky things that happen so that you try not to notice the late arrival of the sun, and early departure.
We had a great feast with our dry-brined bird from Donna, (thanks to Rach and Dad who dealt with it. Rach was appalled that "there were still FEATHERS on it!!!!" and so I'm sure next year it will stay at our house to be taken care of.
At my parents house there was good food, everyone was thankful, and generally we ate just a bit too much. Not too much in the way of gluttony encouraged these days, and I have to say, less is more when it comes to this.
We of course celebrated "Buy Nothing Day" but everything feels a little more surreal, as has been captured in many a Funny Times comic strip: Because we have bought so much crap we are in trouble, because we ARENT buying as much crap, we are in trouble! This is the problem with an economy that voraciously wants more, and is never satisfied. what the heck do we do about that? I'm not going to buy shit just because it might make graphs look better on the news.
What is reasonable holiday spending anyway? How do we balance our deep desire to give and fulfill others' wishes, without creating a monster (in children) or monster debt?
I bought Rowan three new (used) pairs of jeans because all of his 4T pairs look like the knees are about gone, and they are rising at his ankles alarmingly! (we keep feeding him!) And I thought, 'why shouldn't I wrap THESE up?' but instead, I put them in his drawer so he'd have some longer pants. they don't fit the concept of "present" somehow. And yet.
How did we get to be the lucky ones? I thank goodness for the abundance in our lives! Happy holidays!
We had a great feast with our dry-brined bird from Donna, (thanks to Rach and Dad who dealt with it. Rach was appalled that "there were still FEATHERS on it!!!!" and so I'm sure next year it will stay at our house to be taken care of.
At my parents house there was good food, everyone was thankful, and generally we ate just a bit too much. Not too much in the way of gluttony encouraged these days, and I have to say, less is more when it comes to this.
We of course celebrated "Buy Nothing Day" but everything feels a little more surreal, as has been captured in many a Funny Times comic strip: Because we have bought so much crap we are in trouble, because we ARENT buying as much crap, we are in trouble! This is the problem with an economy that voraciously wants more, and is never satisfied. what the heck do we do about that? I'm not going to buy shit just because it might make graphs look better on the news.
What is reasonable holiday spending anyway? How do we balance our deep desire to give and fulfill others' wishes, without creating a monster (in children) or monster debt?
I bought Rowan three new (used) pairs of jeans because all of his 4T pairs look like the knees are about gone, and they are rising at his ankles alarmingly! (we keep feeding him!) And I thought, 'why shouldn't I wrap THESE up?' but instead, I put them in his drawer so he'd have some longer pants. they don't fit the concept of "present" somehow. And yet.
How did we get to be the lucky ones? I thank goodness for the abundance in our lives! Happy holidays!
Thursday, October 29, 2009
Swimming
The boys have been very hard at work learning how to swim. This summer I saw this program being offered, and dismissed it as something we couldn't afford. Then we went to cape cod and there was one child there who i knew had learned to swim this way, and his mother was so at ease, and he was so comfortable in the water. When we got home, there was a group class for two year olds and so i enrolled Milo and went to the first class. It surprised me, he was like a barnacle, and deeply afraid of the water. (I was in the water with him) He had every arm leg hand knees holding onto me, and refused to face outward. he was scared beyond belief of the water, and yet there were two kids who were doing the lessons swimming through the water to their mom and to their instructor... I woke up in the night, wondering how this could work, with him clinging to me, and us meeting weekly for 30 minutes. It felt like a setup- for him and me to be frustrated and unsuccessful. AND on top of that was Rowan! He was just as afraid in deep water. So the grandparents (THANK YOU) gifted money, and we came up with the rest, and you would not believe how these kids have changed. There's a video of each of them, and here they are, hanging out floating in the water. five weeks later. the premise is survival first, so they learn to float, rest and then swim, rest, etc. so that they are safe waiting for help, even if they can't swim far enough to get to safety. Today Rowan was in the deep water with all his clothes on, one of the tests the teacher uses, because, if a kid is going to fall in the water, it's probably not going to be in a swim suit. Anyway. the lessons are four days a week for ten minutes, which logistically is really something... and for six weeks. It is hard work for the kids, and they can have a really hard time. Both boys have dealt with it differently, and that has been interesting, getting to know how they respond to new tasks and being challenged. Here's Milo:
As kids will, they are using play the rest of the day to process their lessons. Both have little babies that they are teaching to swim, and our kitchen floor has been transformed into a pool so that we have milo sprawled out resting in starfish, flipping over and "swimming" to the wall! it is so cool to watch. Their babies are great swimmers, and they have knowledgeable teachers. :) The bath has also become a lot... sloshier... with them trying to do all these tricks in such a small space! and here's Rowan:
So we're on our way to a different experience in the water. I am really glad these boys have gotten this chance to interact this way with the water, in such a safe environment. I think their teacher is awesome.
And Rowan and a boy he goes to preschool with have bonded and that is very cool too.
As kids will, they are using play the rest of the day to process their lessons. Both have little babies that they are teaching to swim, and our kitchen floor has been transformed into a pool so that we have milo sprawled out resting in starfish, flipping over and "swimming" to the wall! it is so cool to watch. Their babies are great swimmers, and they have knowledgeable teachers. :) The bath has also become a lot... sloshier... with them trying to do all these tricks in such a small space! and here's Rowan:
So we're on our way to a different experience in the water. I am really glad these boys have gotten this chance to interact this way with the water, in such a safe environment. I think their teacher is awesome.
And Rowan and a boy he goes to preschool with have bonded and that is very cool too.
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
October
We are entering the beginning of school decisions. Which in some places is incredibly easy. There is a school. You send your child to it. This isn't the way it is in Denver, especially with the choice system that is place. Parents apply at schools (including their HOME SCHOOL) and then get put into a lottery system if there are more applicants than spots. (Usually the case around our house.) This isn't the case for the older grades (first and up) but is the case for the preschool programs that our boys could go to.
I am now at a place where I know nothing about a job I might have (because I don't have it yet!) and the hours and such. Plus, the logistics of two kids at different places makes it difficult to figure out, and of course the money question.
My friends have their kids mainly at two schools, near our house.
We are starting school tours next week, and I have enlisted George to see this all through his eyes so that we can make the best plan for our family and the boys.
I have re-written this post four times. It is a tricky subject and so personal, and maybe I'll change my mind about all this in a year or two. It's hard to know which of my opinions will stick after I've been through the process of a school year. I do know that whatever I choose, Rowan and Milo are robust learners, and they will be fine, so I'm shooting for being reasonable, and not too reactionary as you may have known me to be... ;)
I have tried my best to give these kids space for free play, and materials to help them explore the world. I think that unscheduled time is increasingly what we are missing as a society, and I have tried to resist organized sports and organized everything for these guys at least for a few years. Yet, at what point does it matter to make space for spontaneous play when noone else is, and when all reunions with others are scheduled weeks in advance? Part of what almost everyone remembers about being a kid is having unstructured time with OTHER KIDS and when every child is in sports, art, music, at whatever activity, and in school, it is hard to know what is better for our boys-- Adult-directed activities, or solo activities.
I write this as Rowan and Milo are role playing and building in a fort on the couch, and constructing some other world where "oh no!" and other exclamations are emanating from the play.
It just keeps snowing, there is so much of it! we're probably at two feet now. Happy snow day!
I am now at a place where I know nothing about a job I might have (because I don't have it yet!) and the hours and such. Plus, the logistics of two kids at different places makes it difficult to figure out, and of course the money question.
My friends have their kids mainly at two schools, near our house.
We are starting school tours next week, and I have enlisted George to see this all through his eyes so that we can make the best plan for our family and the boys.
I have re-written this post four times. It is a tricky subject and so personal, and maybe I'll change my mind about all this in a year or two. It's hard to know which of my opinions will stick after I've been through the process of a school year. I do know that whatever I choose, Rowan and Milo are robust learners, and they will be fine, so I'm shooting for being reasonable, and not too reactionary as you may have known me to be... ;)
I have tried my best to give these kids space for free play, and materials to help them explore the world. I think that unscheduled time is increasingly what we are missing as a society, and I have tried to resist organized sports and organized everything for these guys at least for a few years. Yet, at what point does it matter to make space for spontaneous play when noone else is, and when all reunions with others are scheduled weeks in advance? Part of what almost everyone remembers about being a kid is having unstructured time with OTHER KIDS and when every child is in sports, art, music, at whatever activity, and in school, it is hard to know what is better for our boys-- Adult-directed activities, or solo activities.
I write this as Rowan and Milo are role playing and building in a fort on the couch, and constructing some other world where "oh no!" and other exclamations are emanating from the play.
It just keeps snowing, there is so much of it! we're probably at two feet now. Happy snow day!
Thursday, October 1, 2009
You can't cut apples
AND blog, and so now that I'm here, because I just read this great thing that I want to share (this is my latest attempt at a post-many go unfinished and unpublished when I finally just shut down the computer at night) so the apples are sitting in the sink asking... WHO will cut us up to make applesauce while your hands are clicking away?
At the very least, you can talk to your kids while cutting apples, but you really cannot blog. It results in incoherent, abandonded posts, and unfinished thoughts.
So here I am after way too long and it's not because I don't have anything to say, I guess sometimes I wonder what anyone cares about reading. A part of me feels (as I just saw in Julie and Julia) that blogging is more than a bit narcissistic, and that the assumption that you want to know what is happening in my life
(our lives) is faulty at best. I also wonder about whoever is reading. Do I get to talk to you in real life or IRL as they say? Is this the only way we communicate, and is that good enough? I love comments, but then I'm unsure, do I then comment BACK? It seems like a sort of stilted conversation, with pauses that are too long, and the person on the receiving end keeping their thoughts to themselves.
And sometimes, I really wouldn't comment myself, and generally don't. But hey. enough of this.
We had a great summer. It's fall. There was a frost threat last night, and so I cut down half the basil plants, and covered half. NO FROST. but now I have to make pesto today. :)
I read in the Funny Times (one of my top three favorite publications)a great interview with "The World's Worst Mother" and she created this fantastic blog. Please read it. It is antidote to our fear-ridden times and supportive of parents in unconventional and refreshing ways.
http://freerangekids.wordpress.com/
Aside from that. Well, it's hard to imagine, especially for anyone who has known me longer than four years, but my life has been driven by what is being harvested. I put up jam (grape, strawberry, raspberry) and salsa and am now working on apple sauce. We have 22 quarts of whole tomatoes, and I'd like that many more. I did grape juice, which I can't say I love, but better than buying my apple juice from CHINA which is what happened to me the last (and I mean that) time I bought Cascadian Farms apple juice concentrate.
I have confidence that there are organic trees in my HEMISPHERE that may be able to produce some apples, so that's out. Yeesh. China is now the third largest producer of Organic, and now I can't trust that label at all. Plus, when organic means fruity pebbles but organic fruity pebbles, the word is MEANINGLESS. It has lost all relevance to me.
http://www.organicconsumers.org/organic/china40105.cfm
http://notionscapital.wordpress.com/2008/06/02/whole-foods-organic-food-from-china/
I think I'll go and cut apples, see what happens when I type instead of process my own food! you shouldn't let me on here!
For good measure, the boys are amazing. I started them in swim lessons this week, and they are doing well, but it is hard work for them. Here is the program they are using if you're interested. It's amazing to watch and truly worth the money.
http://www.infantaquatics.com/
Milo has started talking, but unlike is brother who enunciated each word, and was precocious with speech, he's got different habits: he doesn't have a t, d, th that i can see, and says those sounds with the back of his mouth... so Two is goo, etc.
It makes it harder for us to understand him, but I am sure he'll take his time, and then that will change too. other things he says are very clear, and Rowan is really his best translator for us all.
Milo is generally fearless, funny and open hearted. He loves his big brother so much, and will hug and kiss him. He will also attempt to scratch his eyes out though if he gets teased, so it seems just like a genuine sibling relationship to me!
G is traveling a lot more for work, and still trying to have a normal life with us, but as everyone with kids knows-- life is more than full when they are around.
We as always, feel incredibly blessed, and grateful for our safe home and healthy loved ones.
My book club is such fun and so interesting and I feel so happy to have just one class this fall. I'm in the home stretch here, and have only a few more things to do. (comps, practicum, and one more class.)
And applesauce. So off I go to fill the slow cooker and our house with wonderful smells.
I'll include a picture or two of the boys.
Friday, July 31, 2009
What a wacky summer. I'm glad we got in all that fun at the beginning because it got a little un-fun when classes started up. Milo's second birthday was a bright spot, along with a visit from Nonna and Nonno.
G and Nonno got right to it, ripped off our decrepit (sp?) crumbling roof and re-roofed the whole thing, while dodging the fairly frequent rain interspersed with roasting high nineties.
The boys have been growing and changing so quickly. Milo all of a sudden decided to start talking and repeating and saying a lot, so it's gotten even louder around here. I confess to yelling my head off repeatedly because I cannot stand them using the couch as trampoline and diving board and cannot get them to stop. Go ahead, call me what you want. It makes me so insane to think about a trip to the ER, yet they are just like the waves in the ocean, they have to chase eachother while screaming, they have to jump like banshees and they are driven to kicking balls around the house, despite my best efforts to contain, redirect or place limits on the area where said activities are done. *sigh*
So, when these crazy-making things aren't happening, and when all of the bedding is not in the living room for some mysterious purpose, our life is sometimes calm. Which is to say, not much. :)
In my less crazy moments, or you could say, MORE crazy moments I am so thrilled to see these happy healthy robust and precocious boys. I have found Milo snuggled up with Rowan in the top bunk sleeping together, which makes me so happy and they really do play well together most of the time when they aren't TRYING to make the other one crazy.
We've had lots of rain around here, for some reason, including highs in the fifties, yep--late July. The boys had a great day in the rain which started normally enough on Wed. Rowan likes to put his sweatshirt on backwards and his raincoat on forwards, so that he can protect his face from the rain, so that's what you see in the pic of them checking on the chickens. Then... well, I have no idea, but you see that the skin is at least as effective as a rain jacket there!
Thursday, July 9, 2009
what summer brought
So you see below the fruits of the season, har har, and the boys growing and changing. Milo is talking a lot more, and turns TWO years old this week. They amaze and amuse us constantly.
They're racing in a fast car with helmets on there, in that picture, one morning with George. Not to mention the strawberry inspired art while I was jamming a dozen (YEAH) half pints of monroe goodness.
School is screeching back into high gear, so what am i doing? well, recording our new chickens etc. Only fitting, right?
I realized I need to put a new section on the side, Boy books. It's my new thing. Now what to do with these boys, now that babyhood is fast slipping away? how can that already be happening? Milo is in underpants full time, Goodbye diapers! that was really fast. How amazingly speedy.
We have four new hens at our house, and they deliver fresh eggs almost every day. Cabot would like to have a few minutes alone with them, so that he could DEVOUR them, but Rowan is so worried about it, it'll never happen.
Our garden is going gangbusters after miraculously avoiding all the hailstorms, and soaking up our rainy june. Too bad I planted so poorly, no beans came up, and the peas didn't even go in until after mothers day. oh well. next year. next year it's gonna be HUGE! next year we will be humming a graduation tune for me, and looking around at kindergarten for Rowan. *shudder*
I think I'll enjoy the now. now... now... !
They're racing in a fast car with helmets on there, in that picture, one morning with George. Not to mention the strawberry inspired art while I was jamming a dozen (YEAH) half pints of monroe goodness.
School is screeching back into high gear, so what am i doing? well, recording our new chickens etc. Only fitting, right?
I realized I need to put a new section on the side, Boy books. It's my new thing. Now what to do with these boys, now that babyhood is fast slipping away? how can that already be happening? Milo is in underpants full time, Goodbye diapers! that was really fast. How amazingly speedy.
We have four new hens at our house, and they deliver fresh eggs almost every day. Cabot would like to have a few minutes alone with them, so that he could DEVOUR them, but Rowan is so worried about it, it'll never happen.
Our garden is going gangbusters after miraculously avoiding all the hailstorms, and soaking up our rainy june. Too bad I planted so poorly, no beans came up, and the peas didn't even go in until after mothers day. oh well. next year. next year it's gonna be HUGE! next year we will be humming a graduation tune for me, and looking around at kindergarten for Rowan. *shudder*
I think I'll enjoy the now. now... now... !
Saturday, June 13, 2009
Moving on
from the last and very stressful quarter... The fun has begun!
Finished up the spring quarter and handed over the responsibilities of payment coordinator at Rowan's preschool I feel so FREE!!! We hopped in the car after shucking those responsibilities and took a road trip to the verdant and lovely Cascade IA.
Stopping with our dear friends in Manhattan (KS) was really fun and tasty too. A few choice pictures here, and hopefully I'll get a slideshow together to embed.
We have four confused hens pecking around their new home as of yesterday, and the boys love watching them. We're hoping for eggs soon.
Sunday, May 10, 2009
Whose Problem
Whose Problem?
Boys, literacy, and what is best for everyone
Picture a reader. A real reader. Who do you see, and what are they doing? Chances are good that you envision some form of a person young or old, sitting still and utterly absorbed in their book. Chances are also good that you imagined a female, and that she may be reading some work of fiction. Now consider this scenario, and whether or not this is reading. Three boys are drawing cartoons of their own version of Captain Underpants, but using their friends and some characters from their favorite video game as the main actors. They are laughing out loud, and providing a soundtrack for the various irreverent and gross actions that are happening in their constructed world on paper. Is that considered reading? Generally, the first image is a much more widely accepted idea of what reading is, yet it is clear that reading and writing are deeply embedded in this experience.
In the fields of education and librarianship there is ongoing discussion and concern about the achievement of boys, their level of involvement and interaction, and their lack of enthusiasm about reading. The general impression is that it’s not boys who are lounging around, nose buried in a book. A steady amount of research related to gender and literacy in library and education publications has tasked itself with examining data, explaining problems, and proposing solutions and actions.
Not all are convinced that there is imminent threat and demise of male readers, but the general feeling in the research is of varying levels of alarm, blame, and concern about how to fix an apparently growing problem. The mainly female adult world of elementary teachers and librarians are struggling with a feeling or concept that all is not as good as it could be with the relationship between them and the boys they are charged with educating and providing services to. Three main types of description and explanation occur in the research literature: 1.) blame it on gender, boys are genetically different than girls and have different learning needs, 2.) the achievement gap between boys and girls is big and growing bigger, and cause for alarm and 3.) reading is mainly a female activity.
Each of these responses is focused on what the boys are or aren’t doing, and are descriptive in nature. By gaining a more contextualized perspective and deeper understanding of what boys are actually doing, there is the ability for adults in both professions to then look beyond gender, and find ways of expanding the interactions in an inclusive and richer environment for all. This shift in interactions can promote and provide access to more than the prototypical reader--one curled up in a chair for hours on end, solitary and unmoving as they devour the pages of a book--the results are positive for both genders, and embrace the wider range of preferences, emotions, and exploration in literature than is commonly held as valid or important.
Perspectives in Research
Three main explanations are explored in research about boys and literacy: boys are genetically different, and therefore have different needs for learning, are possibly mis-characterized through statistical interpretation, and are convinced that reading is a female endeavor.
Gender differences are proposed to be outside the control of boys, and that they are to be addressed by altering the curriculum to better serve their needs and inclinations. Generally referred to as an essentialist point of view, it accepts that gender defines the types of actions and preferences. These generally oversimplified and oft-repeated characteristics include the fact that boys don't like to read, are reluctant readers, cannot sit still, and would do better in single-sex classrooms, among others. These generalizations are then reinforced by articles such as "Boys and Reading: An action research project report."(Kwok, 2009) Kwok spends time closely observing two challenging boys, one a reluctant reader and one diagnosed with ADHD. She works within the confines of the teacher's lesson plans, while offering particular titles and getting to know the boys as readers. In this situation, she "went along with Ms. Jane's poetry plan and tried to think of interesting ways to capture these boys." (Kwok, 2009) She gives at least one opportunity for the boys to respond to poetry with an artistic response, but overall finds limited success with these interventions and intense individual attention. What is characteristic of this approach is the narrow confines of what defines a "good reader" and the necessary and obligatory artifacts and actions that the students must produce based on the types of approved reading materials. This framework rejects the many boys who are exceptions to these generalized rules, and removes fault for boys who aren’t responsive to interventions while attributing their difficulties to their genetics which are out of their control.
Discussion about what the measured differences mean statistically, and about whether or not there is a large “gap” in achievement between boys and girls is a dizzying discussion. Often, the reasoning for adapting or re-thinking ways of programming, teaching and responding to the “boy problem” has been based on statistics of boys performance falling behind. Another issue is the responses on surveys and polls where boys and young men say that they don’t like school or reading. (Palmer, 2008) Analyzing data from all 50 states for 2007, the AAUW, an advocacy group for girls, found that "girls' successes don't come at boys' expense"(Corbett, 2008) and that where girls do well on standardized tests, so do boys. These outcomes directly challenge the general alarm and crisis-talk about the gender-gap in achievement on standardized tests. What became clear from looking at the data was that the “large discrepancies by race/ethnicity and family income level remain.”(Corbett, 2008) So while boys do fit into those categories, there is a much larger and historically consistent problem. In an investigation of the data provided by one of the largest Canadian assessments for students, the widely reported results that showed girls surpassing boys in reading ability was called into question. They state “the findings of this study strongly suggest that the notion of under-achievement of boys in the area of reading achievement has been greatly overstated.” (White, 2007)
The majority of librarians and teachers, especially at the elementary level, are female, and the argument voiced by Young (2001) and Newkirk (2000) is that reading is also viewed as feminized. "With 79 percent of librarians being female, can teen males realistically locate a male role model or even a display promoting "guy books" in public libraries?" Welch (2007, p. xviii) asks as he questions whether collection development done by a predominantly female staff is able to anticipate the interests and preferences of teen males. This is also true in schools, school libraries and for younger boys at public libraries. The surrounding role models all show boys that if you are female, reading is useful to you to grow and become like an elder in your classroom or library. The trend in reading instruction, in collection development, and in models for writing instruction suggest that "books trump magazines; print trumps the visual; the serious trumps the humorous; fiction trumps nonfiction." (Newkirk, 2000, p. 171) The perception of reading as feminized is supported largely by the adults present in schools and libraries, and the materials they encourage and select for reading.
Beyond Gender, Benefitting Boys and Girls
When researchers ask questions about boys’ reading, and how boys are interacting with text and in literacy situations, they are often constrained by the setting and parameters of the classroom. The library, whether school or public, is freed from these parameters, and capable of taking knowledge of what is happening in the classroom, and filling the needs of students for reading material and literacy experiences in more connected and individualized ways. Because teaching and librarianship are predominantly female professions, this means looking critically at general trends in what interests boys and why.
Clearly, generalizing about what one gender prefers or needs is fraught with opportunity for blunder, and guarantees exceptions. However, the preference of certain types of literature by boys and girls is supported by research, and remains fairly consistent over time. (Langerman, 1990)
Evidence exists that boys do read, yet it may not look or sound like the generalized definition of reading posed at the beginning of this paper. The manner and content of what many boys read is undervalued and doesn’t count as “real reading”. As Newkirk states, “boys’ traditional favorites—information books, humor, science fiction, and actions stories—are often treated as subliterature, something that a reader should move beyond as he moves toward realistic fiction with thematic weight.” (Newkirk, p. 70) This pervasive attitude and classification of high and low literature limits the selection, inclusion and celebration of titles that may appeal to boys and girls with preferences outside the traditionally acclaimed literature with moral weight.
The final observation in an article devoted to observing five boys browsing, talking about, and selecting books included an acknowledgement of the complexity of these boys’ tastes, interests and reasons for choosing the topics, genres and texts. Further,
Given the wide variety of literacy practices in which most adolescents engage over the course of a day as they travel between multiple academic and social contexts, finding that adolescents have complex reading interests for a diverse array of purposes should not be a shocking revelation. However, what is shocking is how reluctant the mainstream of classroom literacy practices has been to recognize and honor that complexity. (Cavazos-Kottke, 2006)
Clearly, boys and girls are complex beings and what can be generalized will always find exceptions. By reacting to what works for students, using best practices, and being sensitive to our internal biases about what “quality” means in reading, we inform the adult’s understanding of what good teaching or programming is.
In “Boys May be Boys But do They Have to Read and Write That Way?,” the mother of teenage boy twins and a writing teacher explores the violence that her boys include in their writing and her discomfort with this type of expression. (Williams, 2004) This may be the largest challenge to inviting in more of what boys enjoy; personal discomfort with the very genres that can be most dear because of an inability to view the subject matter in context. Newkirk (2007) very carefully discusses this topic as well, and leads a critique of the literalism that is applied to violence in writing. This is not to dismiss the destructive and disturbing occurrences of actual violence that our society has experienced, but to look closely at what purpose the actions have in the writing. Librarians may have less reservations than teachers when collecting texts, yet our collections grow in accordance with our biases, especially if unquestioned and untested. “The kinds of literacy practices to which boys are often drawn--connected to action, violence, and popular culture--are usually prohibited in the classroom where the emphasis is often on 'high culture' literature driven by character and nuance.” (Williams, 2004)
In “Teaching to the Minds of Boys” for example, the reasoning behind the types of changes that were made at an elementary school were neurological. The issue of whether or not differences in gender can be reduced to biology set aside, what actually happened in the classrooms were a change in the attitude and framework of understanding of the adults—not the children. This shift was by introducing more manners of instructing and learning, increasing the range of acceptable behaviors, and widening the possibilities of choice for students. The results, in addition to gathering the entire instructional team together for a common and directed purpose, were that “by introducing more boy-friendly teaching strategies in the classroom, the school was able to close the gender gap in just one year. At the same time, girls’ reading and writing performance improved.” (King and Gurian, 2006) While not specifically mentioning the school library, it is certain that the teacher-librarian was empowered to broaden the types of materials and their content with this new focus.
Brown and Meyers (2008) offer another example of a shift in the adults’ actions that benefit and draw in boys and girls with the inclusion of multiple intelligences. By using different intelligences (based on Howard Gardner’s work) they were able to tap into more modalities of learning, playing and interacting within programming at the library. This was achieved by incorporating aspects of programs that encourage the use of more than the linguistic intelligence. The encouragement from these two librarians, "We need to remember to include activities that that involve logic, music, visuals, and movement if want to appeal to boys, and we need to be open to the energy and activity that will ensue in our programs." This acknowledgement that inclusion looks different is key, and suggests that the experience of broader programming will ask the adults to reframe what it should look and sound like. The focus on the eight intelligences benefits many types of learners regardless of gender, although it is mentioned as a way to draw boys in.
There are many boys and girls who curl up with a good book and get lost inside it, forgetting their surroundings, and in their stillness, forget about the world around them. Their classmates and friends who interact with the written word differently, and who have interests in magazines, the sports pages, or intergalactic action scenes are no less readers. By expanding our idea of what reading looks like, changing our expectations of readers, and creating opportunities for interaction with the written word we welcome more boys into our libraries and into schools. Beyond that, we provide boys and girls with stronger connections to reading and writing by respecting and broadening what is acceptable, offered, and welcomed in the library--including Professor Poopypants!
References
Bausch, L. S. (2007). Boy-talk around texts: Considering how a third grade boy transforms the shape of literacy in book talk discussions. Journal of Early Childhood Literacy, 7(2), 199-218.
Blair, H. A., & Sanford, K. (2004). Morphing literacy: Boys reshaping their school-based literacy practices. Language Arts, 81(6), 452.
Booth, D. (2002). Even hockey players read: Boys, literacy and reading. Markham, Ont: Pembroke.
Brown, A., & Meyers, M. (2008). Bringing in the boys. Children & Libraries: The Journal of the Association for Library Service to Children, 6(1), 4-9.
Brozo, W. G. (2006). Bridges to literacy for boys. Educational Leadership, 64(1), 71-74.
Brozo, W. G. (2002). To be a boy, to be a reader: Engaging teen and preteen boys in active literacy. Newark, Del: International Reading Association.
Cavazos-Kottke, S. (2006). Five readers browsing: The reading interests of talented middle school boys. Gifted Child Quarterly, 50(2), 132-147.
Corbett, C., Hill, C., & St. Rose, A. (2008). Where the girls are: The facts about gender equity in education. Washington, DC: AAUW.
Kenney, B. (2007). Is there really a problem?
King, K., & Gurian, M. (2006). Teaching to the minds of boys. Educational Leadership, 64(1), 56-58,60-61.
Knowles, E., & Smith, M. (2005). Boys and literacy: Practical strategies for librarians, teachers, and parents. Westport, Conn: Libraries Unlimited.
Lenters, K. (2007). From storybooks to games, comics, bands, and chapter books: A young boy's appropriation of literacy practices. Canadian Journal of Education, 30(1), 113-136.
Loertscher, D. (2008). The old stereotyping: Boys vs. girls. Teacher Librarian, 36(1), 42.
Martino, W., & Berrill Deborah. (2003). Boys, schooling and masculinities: Interrogating the "right" way to educate boys. Educational Review, 55(2), 99-117.
Martino, W., & Kehler, M. (2007). Gender-based literacy reform: A question of challenging or recuperating gender binaries. Canadian Journal of Education, 30(2), 406-431.
Meyers, E. (1999). The coolness factor: Ten libraries listen to youth. (cover story). American Libraries, 30(10), 42.
Newkirk, T. (2002). Misreading masculinity: Boys, literacy, and popular culture. Portsmouth, NH: Heinemann.
Nippold, M. A., Duthie, J. K., & Larsen, J. (2005). Literacy as a leisure activity: Free-time preferences of older children and young adolescents. Language, Speech, and Hearing Services in Schools, 36(2), 93-102.
Ontario. (2004). Me read? No way!: A practical guide to improving boys' literacy skills. [Toronto]: Ontario Education.
Palmer, T. (2008). Reading the game: Using sport to encourage boys and men to read more. Australasian Public Libraries and Information Services, 21(2), 78-83.
Pilkey, D. (1997). The adventures of Captain Underpants: An epic novel. New York: Blue Sky Press.
Sanford, K. (2005). Gendered literacy experiences: The effects of expectation and opportunity for boys' and girls' learning. Journal of Adolescent & Adult Literacy, 49(4), 302-315.
Sax, L. (2007). THE BOY PROBLEM. (cover story). School Library Journal, 53(9), 40-43.
Schwarz, G. E. (2002). Graphic novels for multiple literacies. Journal of Adolescent & Adult Literacy, 46(3), 262-265.
Smith, M. W., & Wilhelm, J. D. (2002). Reading don't fix no Chevys: Literacy in the lives of young men. Portsmouth, NH: Heinemann.
Sullivan, M. (2003). Connecting boys with books: What libraries can do. Chicago: American Library Association.
Wannamaker, A. (2008). Boys in children's literature and popular culture: Masculinity, abjection, and the fictional child. Children's literature and culture. New York: Routledge.
Welch, R. J. (2007). The guy-friendly YA library: Serving male teens. Libraries Unlimited professional guides for young adult librarians. Westport, Conn: Libraries Unlimited.
Welldon, C. (2005). Addressing the gender gap in boys' reading. Teacher Librarian, 32(4), 44.
White, B. (2007). Are girls better readers than boys? which boys? which girls? Canadian Journal of Education, 30(2), 554-581.
Williams, B. T. (2004). Boys may be boys, but do they have to read and write that way? Journal of Adolescent & Adult Literacy, 47(6), 510-515.
Young, J. P. (2001). Displaying practices of masculinity: Critical literacy and social contexts. Journal of Adolescent & Adult Literacy, 45(1), 4-14.
Zambo, D. (2007). Using picture books to provide archetypes to young boys: Extending the ideas of william brozo. Reading Teacher, 61(2), 124-131.
Boys, literacy, and what is best for everyone
Picture a reader. A real reader. Who do you see, and what are they doing? Chances are good that you envision some form of a person young or old, sitting still and utterly absorbed in their book. Chances are also good that you imagined a female, and that she may be reading some work of fiction. Now consider this scenario, and whether or not this is reading. Three boys are drawing cartoons of their own version of Captain Underpants, but using their friends and some characters from their favorite video game as the main actors. They are laughing out loud, and providing a soundtrack for the various irreverent and gross actions that are happening in their constructed world on paper. Is that considered reading? Generally, the first image is a much more widely accepted idea of what reading is, yet it is clear that reading and writing are deeply embedded in this experience.
In the fields of education and librarianship there is ongoing discussion and concern about the achievement of boys, their level of involvement and interaction, and their lack of enthusiasm about reading. The general impression is that it’s not boys who are lounging around, nose buried in a book. A steady amount of research related to gender and literacy in library and education publications has tasked itself with examining data, explaining problems, and proposing solutions and actions.
Not all are convinced that there is imminent threat and demise of male readers, but the general feeling in the research is of varying levels of alarm, blame, and concern about how to fix an apparently growing problem. The mainly female adult world of elementary teachers and librarians are struggling with a feeling or concept that all is not as good as it could be with the relationship between them and the boys they are charged with educating and providing services to. Three main types of description and explanation occur in the research literature: 1.) blame it on gender, boys are genetically different than girls and have different learning needs, 2.) the achievement gap between boys and girls is big and growing bigger, and cause for alarm and 3.) reading is mainly a female activity.
Each of these responses is focused on what the boys are or aren’t doing, and are descriptive in nature. By gaining a more contextualized perspective and deeper understanding of what boys are actually doing, there is the ability for adults in both professions to then look beyond gender, and find ways of expanding the interactions in an inclusive and richer environment for all. This shift in interactions can promote and provide access to more than the prototypical reader--one curled up in a chair for hours on end, solitary and unmoving as they devour the pages of a book--the results are positive for both genders, and embrace the wider range of preferences, emotions, and exploration in literature than is commonly held as valid or important.
Perspectives in Research
Three main explanations are explored in research about boys and literacy: boys are genetically different, and therefore have different needs for learning, are possibly mis-characterized through statistical interpretation, and are convinced that reading is a female endeavor.
Gender differences are proposed to be outside the control of boys, and that they are to be addressed by altering the curriculum to better serve their needs and inclinations. Generally referred to as an essentialist point of view, it accepts that gender defines the types of actions and preferences. These generally oversimplified and oft-repeated characteristics include the fact that boys don't like to read, are reluctant readers, cannot sit still, and would do better in single-sex classrooms, among others. These generalizations are then reinforced by articles such as "Boys and Reading: An action research project report."(Kwok, 2009) Kwok spends time closely observing two challenging boys, one a reluctant reader and one diagnosed with ADHD. She works within the confines of the teacher's lesson plans, while offering particular titles and getting to know the boys as readers. In this situation, she "went along with Ms. Jane's poetry plan and tried to think of interesting ways to capture these boys." (Kwok, 2009) She gives at least one opportunity for the boys to respond to poetry with an artistic response, but overall finds limited success with these interventions and intense individual attention. What is characteristic of this approach is the narrow confines of what defines a "good reader" and the necessary and obligatory artifacts and actions that the students must produce based on the types of approved reading materials. This framework rejects the many boys who are exceptions to these generalized rules, and removes fault for boys who aren’t responsive to interventions while attributing their difficulties to their genetics which are out of their control.
Discussion about what the measured differences mean statistically, and about whether or not there is a large “gap” in achievement between boys and girls is a dizzying discussion. Often, the reasoning for adapting or re-thinking ways of programming, teaching and responding to the “boy problem” has been based on statistics of boys performance falling behind. Another issue is the responses on surveys and polls where boys and young men say that they don’t like school or reading. (Palmer, 2008) Analyzing data from all 50 states for 2007, the AAUW, an advocacy group for girls, found that "girls' successes don't come at boys' expense"(Corbett, 2008) and that where girls do well on standardized tests, so do boys. These outcomes directly challenge the general alarm and crisis-talk about the gender-gap in achievement on standardized tests. What became clear from looking at the data was that the “large discrepancies by race/ethnicity and family income level remain.”(Corbett, 2008) So while boys do fit into those categories, there is a much larger and historically consistent problem. In an investigation of the data provided by one of the largest Canadian assessments for students, the widely reported results that showed girls surpassing boys in reading ability was called into question. They state “the findings of this study strongly suggest that the notion of under-achievement of boys in the area of reading achievement has been greatly overstated.” (White, 2007)
The majority of librarians and teachers, especially at the elementary level, are female, and the argument voiced by Young (2001) and Newkirk (2000) is that reading is also viewed as feminized. "With 79 percent of librarians being female, can teen males realistically locate a male role model or even a display promoting "guy books" in public libraries?" Welch (2007, p. xviii) asks as he questions whether collection development done by a predominantly female staff is able to anticipate the interests and preferences of teen males. This is also true in schools, school libraries and for younger boys at public libraries. The surrounding role models all show boys that if you are female, reading is useful to you to grow and become like an elder in your classroom or library. The trend in reading instruction, in collection development, and in models for writing instruction suggest that "books trump magazines; print trumps the visual; the serious trumps the humorous; fiction trumps nonfiction." (Newkirk, 2000, p. 171) The perception of reading as feminized is supported largely by the adults present in schools and libraries, and the materials they encourage and select for reading.
Beyond Gender, Benefitting Boys and Girls
When researchers ask questions about boys’ reading, and how boys are interacting with text and in literacy situations, they are often constrained by the setting and parameters of the classroom. The library, whether school or public, is freed from these parameters, and capable of taking knowledge of what is happening in the classroom, and filling the needs of students for reading material and literacy experiences in more connected and individualized ways. Because teaching and librarianship are predominantly female professions, this means looking critically at general trends in what interests boys and why.
Clearly, generalizing about what one gender prefers or needs is fraught with opportunity for blunder, and guarantees exceptions. However, the preference of certain types of literature by boys and girls is supported by research, and remains fairly consistent over time. (Langerman, 1990)
Evidence exists that boys do read, yet it may not look or sound like the generalized definition of reading posed at the beginning of this paper. The manner and content of what many boys read is undervalued and doesn’t count as “real reading”. As Newkirk states, “boys’ traditional favorites—information books, humor, science fiction, and actions stories—are often treated as subliterature, something that a reader should move beyond as he moves toward realistic fiction with thematic weight.” (Newkirk, p. 70) This pervasive attitude and classification of high and low literature limits the selection, inclusion and celebration of titles that may appeal to boys and girls with preferences outside the traditionally acclaimed literature with moral weight.
The final observation in an article devoted to observing five boys browsing, talking about, and selecting books included an acknowledgement of the complexity of these boys’ tastes, interests and reasons for choosing the topics, genres and texts. Further,
Given the wide variety of literacy practices in which most adolescents engage over the course of a day as they travel between multiple academic and social contexts, finding that adolescents have complex reading interests for a diverse array of purposes should not be a shocking revelation. However, what is shocking is how reluctant the mainstream of classroom literacy practices has been to recognize and honor that complexity. (Cavazos-Kottke, 2006)
Clearly, boys and girls are complex beings and what can be generalized will always find exceptions. By reacting to what works for students, using best practices, and being sensitive to our internal biases about what “quality” means in reading, we inform the adult’s understanding of what good teaching or programming is.
In “Boys May be Boys But do They Have to Read and Write That Way?,” the mother of teenage boy twins and a writing teacher explores the violence that her boys include in their writing and her discomfort with this type of expression. (Williams, 2004) This may be the largest challenge to inviting in more of what boys enjoy; personal discomfort with the very genres that can be most dear because of an inability to view the subject matter in context. Newkirk (2007) very carefully discusses this topic as well, and leads a critique of the literalism that is applied to violence in writing. This is not to dismiss the destructive and disturbing occurrences of actual violence that our society has experienced, but to look closely at what purpose the actions have in the writing. Librarians may have less reservations than teachers when collecting texts, yet our collections grow in accordance with our biases, especially if unquestioned and untested. “The kinds of literacy practices to which boys are often drawn--connected to action, violence, and popular culture--are usually prohibited in the classroom where the emphasis is often on 'high culture' literature driven by character and nuance.” (Williams, 2004)
In “Teaching to the Minds of Boys” for example, the reasoning behind the types of changes that were made at an elementary school were neurological. The issue of whether or not differences in gender can be reduced to biology set aside, what actually happened in the classrooms were a change in the attitude and framework of understanding of the adults—not the children. This shift was by introducing more manners of instructing and learning, increasing the range of acceptable behaviors, and widening the possibilities of choice for students. The results, in addition to gathering the entire instructional team together for a common and directed purpose, were that “by introducing more boy-friendly teaching strategies in the classroom, the school was able to close the gender gap in just one year. At the same time, girls’ reading and writing performance improved.” (King and Gurian, 2006) While not specifically mentioning the school library, it is certain that the teacher-librarian was empowered to broaden the types of materials and their content with this new focus.
Brown and Meyers (2008) offer another example of a shift in the adults’ actions that benefit and draw in boys and girls with the inclusion of multiple intelligences. By using different intelligences (based on Howard Gardner’s work) they were able to tap into more modalities of learning, playing and interacting within programming at the library. This was achieved by incorporating aspects of programs that encourage the use of more than the linguistic intelligence. The encouragement from these two librarians, "We need to remember to include activities that that involve logic, music, visuals, and movement if want to appeal to boys, and we need to be open to the energy and activity that will ensue in our programs." This acknowledgement that inclusion looks different is key, and suggests that the experience of broader programming will ask the adults to reframe what it should look and sound like. The focus on the eight intelligences benefits many types of learners regardless of gender, although it is mentioned as a way to draw boys in.
There are many boys and girls who curl up with a good book and get lost inside it, forgetting their surroundings, and in their stillness, forget about the world around them. Their classmates and friends who interact with the written word differently, and who have interests in magazines, the sports pages, or intergalactic action scenes are no less readers. By expanding our idea of what reading looks like, changing our expectations of readers, and creating opportunities for interaction with the written word we welcome more boys into our libraries and into schools. Beyond that, we provide boys and girls with stronger connections to reading and writing by respecting and broadening what is acceptable, offered, and welcomed in the library--including Professor Poopypants!
References
Bausch, L. S. (2007). Boy-talk around texts: Considering how a third grade boy transforms the shape of literacy in book talk discussions. Journal of Early Childhood Literacy, 7(2), 199-218.
Blair, H. A., & Sanford, K. (2004). Morphing literacy: Boys reshaping their school-based literacy practices. Language Arts, 81(6), 452.
Booth, D. (2002). Even hockey players read: Boys, literacy and reading. Markham, Ont: Pembroke.
Brown, A., & Meyers, M. (2008). Bringing in the boys. Children & Libraries: The Journal of the Association for Library Service to Children, 6(1), 4-9.
Brozo, W. G. (2006). Bridges to literacy for boys. Educational Leadership, 64(1), 71-74.
Brozo, W. G. (2002). To be a boy, to be a reader: Engaging teen and preteen boys in active literacy. Newark, Del: International Reading Association.
Cavazos-Kottke, S. (2006). Five readers browsing: The reading interests of talented middle school boys. Gifted Child Quarterly, 50(2), 132-147.
Corbett, C., Hill, C., & St. Rose, A. (2008). Where the girls are: The facts about gender equity in education. Washington, DC: AAUW.
Kenney, B. (2007). Is there really a problem?
King, K., & Gurian, M. (2006). Teaching to the minds of boys. Educational Leadership, 64(1), 56-58,60-61.
Knowles, E., & Smith, M. (2005). Boys and literacy: Practical strategies for librarians, teachers, and parents. Westport, Conn: Libraries Unlimited.
Lenters, K. (2007). From storybooks to games, comics, bands, and chapter books: A young boy's appropriation of literacy practices. Canadian Journal of Education, 30(1), 113-136.
Loertscher, D. (2008). The old stereotyping: Boys vs. girls. Teacher Librarian, 36(1), 42.
Martino, W., & Berrill Deborah. (2003). Boys, schooling and masculinities: Interrogating the "right" way to educate boys. Educational Review, 55(2), 99-117.
Martino, W., & Kehler, M. (2007). Gender-based literacy reform: A question of challenging or recuperating gender binaries. Canadian Journal of Education, 30(2), 406-431.
Meyers, E. (1999). The coolness factor: Ten libraries listen to youth. (cover story). American Libraries, 30(10), 42.
Newkirk, T. (2002). Misreading masculinity: Boys, literacy, and popular culture. Portsmouth, NH: Heinemann.
Nippold, M. A., Duthie, J. K., & Larsen, J. (2005). Literacy as a leisure activity: Free-time preferences of older children and young adolescents. Language, Speech, and Hearing Services in Schools, 36(2), 93-102.
Ontario. (2004). Me read? No way!: A practical guide to improving boys' literacy skills. [Toronto]: Ontario Education.
Palmer, T. (2008). Reading the game: Using sport to encourage boys and men to read more. Australasian Public Libraries and Information Services, 21(2), 78-83.
Pilkey, D. (1997). The adventures of Captain Underpants: An epic novel. New York: Blue Sky Press.
Sanford, K. (2005). Gendered literacy experiences: The effects of expectation and opportunity for boys' and girls' learning. Journal of Adolescent & Adult Literacy, 49(4), 302-315.
Sax, L. (2007). THE BOY PROBLEM. (cover story). School Library Journal, 53(9), 40-43.
Schwarz, G. E. (2002). Graphic novels for multiple literacies. Journal of Adolescent & Adult Literacy, 46(3), 262-265.
Smith, M. W., & Wilhelm, J. D. (2002). Reading don't fix no Chevys: Literacy in the lives of young men. Portsmouth, NH: Heinemann.
Sullivan, M. (2003). Connecting boys with books: What libraries can do. Chicago: American Library Association.
Wannamaker, A. (2008). Boys in children's literature and popular culture: Masculinity, abjection, and the fictional child. Children's literature and culture. New York: Routledge.
Welch, R. J. (2007). The guy-friendly YA library: Serving male teens. Libraries Unlimited professional guides for young adult librarians. Westport, Conn: Libraries Unlimited.
Welldon, C. (2005). Addressing the gender gap in boys' reading. Teacher Librarian, 32(4), 44.
White, B. (2007). Are girls better readers than boys? which boys? which girls? Canadian Journal of Education, 30(2), 554-581.
Williams, B. T. (2004). Boys may be boys, but do they have to read and write that way? Journal of Adolescent & Adult Literacy, 47(6), 510-515.
Young, J. P. (2001). Displaying practices of masculinity: Critical literacy and social contexts. Journal of Adolescent & Adult Literacy, 45(1), 4-14.
Zambo, D. (2007). Using picture books to provide archetypes to young boys: Extending the ideas of william brozo. Reading Teacher, 61(2), 124-131.
Friday, May 8, 2009
Why Dirt is Good
This book is on my reading list.
I'm writing a paper (can't you tell?) and when i'm done, I'll post it here. It's due Monday at 4. I think I'll make it, but it won't be pretty. What graduate school has done to me, is to have me accept that all of my work may not be my best work. It's just the best I can do at this time. I haven't taken it too hard, certainly accepting it has made it easier.
Oh I should have tried to do this through goodreads. Maybe I'll do both for good measure. Oh, but the paper... yes I'll do that instead.
I'm writing a paper (can't you tell?) and when i'm done, I'll post it here. It's due Monday at 4. I think I'll make it, but it won't be pretty. What graduate school has done to me, is to have me accept that all of my work may not be my best work. It's just the best I can do at this time. I haven't taken it too hard, certainly accepting it has made it easier.
Oh I should have tried to do this through goodreads. Maybe I'll do both for good measure. Oh, but the paper... yes I'll do that instead.
Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Meeting on the fringe
While I am getting more and more used to [and comfortable] being on the very fringe of society in general (birthing at home, no tv, eating locally, wanting backyard chickens...--okay or maybe we're just amish-wannabes!!)Every once in a while I see something that shows up in the media (okay, usually it's the NYT but that counts doesn't it?). Yesterday I got to open the Sunday Magazine (yes it was Monday) and lo and behold--someone I agree with, right there in the "How we live now" section called Kindergarten Cram.
I'm four years out from teaching now, and also a mother so it has made the student's [and their parents] perspective more clear...In my own defense, I was not a fan of homework, yet i did create a sheet that I hoped would get kids reading, and doing a bit of some mental work each day. It was still too much at home time. Because I see how days are carved up in families with kids in school, and as I do more research on how kids learn to read for example, this article rings increasingly true.
The interview with Obama in that same issue is well worth reading. I am tempted (but won't spend my time) to look through the archives and see if there was an interview where dubya strung together sentences in an interview like this. My initial pessimistic self thinks that I won't find an intelligent transcript like the way this interview reads.
All that said, I am baffled already by Rowan's transition to four (yes I know, it's only been a couple of weeks.) But he's doing really funny things, like he has created an alternate voice (not really baby talk, just pronouncing words differently) and it's amazing. He's always been a verbal guy, and I think this is him experimenting with how you make different sounds and speech--within english.
I have had a series of crazy power struggles with him, because I am operating the way we have, and now he has a different idea about how things should go. Forgive me Rowan, I was just getting used to the way things were three or four weeks ago. Apparently they're different now, and your mom is a little behind the curve. Just give me a few more tries to get it right. Be patient, I'm trying as hard as I can.
He is shoving me away and surprising me, and clinging to me and surprising me! and this, while I'm trying to formulate a research paper on "boys and reading in libraries"!
In other news, my sister is graduating from Grad school this week! Congratulations Auntie RAch, your program has asked a lot more of you than mine has. (THANK GOODNESS because I don't think I could offer more.)
I'm four years out from teaching now, and also a mother so it has made the student's [and their parents] perspective more clear...In my own defense, I was not a fan of homework, yet i did create a sheet that I hoped would get kids reading, and doing a bit of some mental work each day. It was still too much at home time. Because I see how days are carved up in families with kids in school, and as I do more research on how kids learn to read for example, this article rings increasingly true.
The interview with Obama in that same issue is well worth reading. I am tempted (but won't spend my time) to look through the archives and see if there was an interview where dubya strung together sentences in an interview like this. My initial pessimistic self thinks that I won't find an intelligent transcript like the way this interview reads.
All that said, I am baffled already by Rowan's transition to four (yes I know, it's only been a couple of weeks.) But he's doing really funny things, like he has created an alternate voice (not really baby talk, just pronouncing words differently) and it's amazing. He's always been a verbal guy, and I think this is him experimenting with how you make different sounds and speech--within english.
I have had a series of crazy power struggles with him, because I am operating the way we have, and now he has a different idea about how things should go. Forgive me Rowan, I was just getting used to the way things were three or four weeks ago. Apparently they're different now, and your mom is a little behind the curve. Just give me a few more tries to get it right. Be patient, I'm trying as hard as I can.
He is shoving me away and surprising me, and clinging to me and surprising me! and this, while I'm trying to formulate a research paper on "boys and reading in libraries"!
In other news, my sister is graduating from Grad school this week! Congratulations Auntie RAch, your program has asked a lot more of you than mine has. (THANK GOODNESS because I don't think I could offer more.)
Friday, April 17, 2009
Can you see me?
I finally caught and wrote down what Rowan said, and can repeat it:
Rowan and Milo playing with the play doh at the table together.
Rowan (throws playdoh) : "Milo, I'm losing my temper-cher."
*sheepish grin*
I'm sure I've never said i'm losing my temper(ature) with my little boy!!
He turns FOUR tomorrow. We had the best conferences ever with his two schools this week and last. The best thing I heard? "Rowan is a well-rounded boy." YAY! that's just what we love and want, a balanced boy who can snuggle and read and identify bird calls, and who can kick a ball, run fast and leap high with the rest of them.
He can write his name, with some fun variation in order of letters, and is happy to do handstands and any antics on the couch until i lose my temper. (uh oh.)
:)
Rowan and Milo playing with the play doh at the table together.
Rowan (throws playdoh) : "Milo, I'm losing my temper-cher."
*sheepish grin*
I'm sure I've never said i'm losing my temper(ature) with my little boy!!
He turns FOUR tomorrow. We had the best conferences ever with his two schools this week and last. The best thing I heard? "Rowan is a well-rounded boy." YAY! that's just what we love and want, a balanced boy who can snuggle and read and identify bird calls, and who can kick a ball, run fast and leap high with the rest of them.
He can write his name, with some fun variation in order of letters, and is happy to do handstands and any antics on the couch until i lose my temper. (uh oh.)
:)
Saturday, March 21, 2009
yes we can...
Cue up the Obama song by MF. Check out Michelle here! Local Food arrives in DC, and George cheers for NO beets, the prez doesn't like them. If you remember, I posted about it back a ways, and since then, all over the place people are signing petitions to get a portion of the lawn ripped up and a garden in place.
IT'S Happening! And did you read the pieces in Mother Jones yet about our food system?
In other news around here, the leftover pizza dough that I made is now curled around brown sugar and butter and cinnamon in some cinnamon rolls. yum. We are relishing the end of my Saturday morning class and enjoying every second of my spring break. Aren't you proud of me? Three posts in this week. Just imagine how often you'd hear from me if I weren't constantly freaking out about how i was going to fit all this stuff in. ;)
we are going to get some peas in the ground this week, since yesterday was the first day of spring, and it's time to get going on our garden :) yay, can't wait can't wait can't wait.... spring-summer-fall-the extension of our house to all the square footage OUTSIDE! Then our house is HUGE!
IT'S Happening! And did you read the pieces in Mother Jones yet about our food system?
In other news around here, the leftover pizza dough that I made is now curled around brown sugar and butter and cinnamon in some cinnamon rolls. yum. We are relishing the end of my Saturday morning class and enjoying every second of my spring break. Aren't you proud of me? Three posts in this week. Just imagine how often you'd hear from me if I weren't constantly freaking out about how i was going to fit all this stuff in. ;)
we are going to get some peas in the ground this week, since yesterday was the first day of spring, and it's time to get going on our garden :) yay, can't wait can't wait can't wait.... spring-summer-fall-the extension of our house to all the square footage OUTSIDE! Then our house is HUGE!
Thursday, March 19, 2009
Happy kids
Pancakes save my life
When I am a nice person, in the daytime and I've forgotten about my night, then I make pancakes. With leftover oatmeal and cooked squash, really anything I think can go un-noticed, no really! They are good.
Then I freeze most of them, and the next morning, or the morning after that when I cannot open my eyes because of my night but my youngest is already screaming for food and pulling the sheets off me in bed, I go out, blindly hand him a frozen one, put more in the toaster oven, and that with apple sauce quiets the beast. Until they are gone. By then, I'm usually more functional.
One of my ongoing agree to disagree conversations with George is about cold cereal. I know, yes, the foundation of the modern breakfast. I happen to think it's not really that great for you, and for that I thank Sally Fallon. In any case, since I do the grocery shopping, I don't buy the stuff, and so--pancakes are my response to food fast in the morning.
And before you ask me, I will make my small case that any "food" that has been ground to a pulp, turned into a slurry, had synthetic vitamins added to it, extruded under high pressure and high heat and then coated with any various sweet thing is not in fact food. It may be a food product. It might be trying to be food. It most certainly is no effing whole grain.
My eyes know what whole grains look like. and they don't look like cheerios. End of case.
And now, a deep and wide THANK YOU to those of you who commented. Shucks, you're making me so happy. I know you are checking in and it makes me feel loved. :)
Then I freeze most of them, and the next morning, or the morning after that when I cannot open my eyes because of my night but my youngest is already screaming for food and pulling the sheets off me in bed, I go out, blindly hand him a frozen one, put more in the toaster oven, and that with apple sauce quiets the beast. Until they are gone. By then, I'm usually more functional.
One of my ongoing agree to disagree conversations with George is about cold cereal. I know, yes, the foundation of the modern breakfast. I happen to think it's not really that great for you, and for that I thank Sally Fallon. In any case, since I do the grocery shopping, I don't buy the stuff, and so--pancakes are my response to food fast in the morning.
And before you ask me, I will make my small case that any "food" that has been ground to a pulp, turned into a slurry, had synthetic vitamins added to it, extruded under high pressure and high heat and then coated with any various sweet thing is not in fact food. It may be a food product. It might be trying to be food. It most certainly is no effing whole grain.
My eyes know what whole grains look like. and they don't look like cheerios. End of case.
And now, a deep and wide THANK YOU to those of you who commented. Shucks, you're making me so happy. I know you are checking in and it makes me feel loved. :)
Saturday, February 28, 2009
Oh, so this is what it feels like
when you begin to realize you're growing up.
1. When your mom goes on a trip to Puerto Rico, and starts talking about what shoes to wear for her zip-line adventure in the rain forest canopy you get unreasonable about her having to buy a new pair of Keens because her tennis shoes aren't going to give her "protection."
2. When your husband goes anywhere (road ride, plane trip, climbing, soccer, work) you say "be safe" and you mean it in the most desperate and true way, because if he's not... then what?
3. When your nineteen month old child balances himself on the edge of the couch by touching the wall under the huge framed picture (that has a sheet of glass covering it), you worry that he may tip over backwards and hurt himself by falling between the couch and the wooden table there. Then he jumps forward, hopefully not onto his brother's head.
4. When same nineteen month old desperately wants to leap between the table and the couch (but can't pick up both feet at the same time yet) his brother bear hugs him and tips them both across the space between said couch and table. You just feel hopeless about this couch, since you've tried EVERY SINGLE possible way to stop them from using it as a jungle gym.
5.When your dad won't stay and eat dinner, you worry if he is going to eat at all, since he's home by himself and has a "lot to do".
6. When you look in the mirror, you're surprised about your face. It doesn't look quite like it used to, the last time you noticed. And you actually can hear the words to that Bonnie Raitt song.
7. Every book, newspaper article, story that mentions someone hurt or dying reminds you of the pain of that person's mother.
8. You see a fender bender, and there is a young girl crying into her cell phone but everyone looks okay. And you remember when that was you just a few years ago, but there weren't really cell phones around yet so you cried all the way home before you made the call.
9. Your dog keeps getting older and is really good company to have near your feet.
1. When your mom goes on a trip to Puerto Rico, and starts talking about what shoes to wear for her zip-line adventure in the rain forest canopy you get unreasonable about her having to buy a new pair of Keens because her tennis shoes aren't going to give her "protection."
2. When your husband goes anywhere (road ride, plane trip, climbing, soccer, work) you say "be safe" and you mean it in the most desperate and true way, because if he's not... then what?
3. When your nineteen month old child balances himself on the edge of the couch by touching the wall under the huge framed picture (that has a sheet of glass covering it), you worry that he may tip over backwards and hurt himself by falling between the couch and the wooden table there. Then he jumps forward, hopefully not onto his brother's head.
4. When same nineteen month old desperately wants to leap between the table and the couch (but can't pick up both feet at the same time yet) his brother bear hugs him and tips them both across the space between said couch and table. You just feel hopeless about this couch, since you've tried EVERY SINGLE possible way to stop them from using it as a jungle gym.
5.When your dad won't stay and eat dinner, you worry if he is going to eat at all, since he's home by himself and has a "lot to do".
6. When you look in the mirror, you're surprised about your face. It doesn't look quite like it used to, the last time you noticed. And you actually can hear the words to that Bonnie Raitt song.
7. Every book, newspaper article, story that mentions someone hurt or dying reminds you of the pain of that person's mother.
8. You see a fender bender, and there is a young girl crying into her cell phone but everyone looks okay. And you remember when that was you just a few years ago, but there weren't really cell phones around yet so you cried all the way home before you made the call.
9. Your dog keeps getting older and is really good company to have near your feet.
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
Friends
The new things that have happened in the past few weeks around here:
Rowan learned how to open the car door from the outside, so now i don't have to open it for him OR clip him in!
Milo can climb up onto his bed without the stool!
I made my first batch of vegetable stock. Do NOT ask me why it took me so long to do this very simple thing.
We got the box of legos that Rachael and I had as girls out of storage and now my boys are playing with them obsesively.
I got a class where I "have" to read fiction for homework!! (40 YA books)
We've done two small trips in the car without diapers for Milo!
We finally visited our friends who moved from NY to CSprings, it was long overdue.
Rowan and Milo both got sick, and wiped out a week of plans.
I got to go to the Brown Palace for high tea with the Radicals. That was lovely, thanks girls!!
I walked the exhibition floor of the MidWinter ALA conference, surrounded by publishers and librarians!! That was pretty fun, and I got a bunch of advanced readers copies of YA fiction.
My reading list from the last few weeks
The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian S. Alexie (highly recommended)
The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants A. Brashares
The Outsiders S.E. Hinton
American Born Chinese
Speak
The Giver L.Lowry
The Shadow of the Wind C.R. Zafon(highly recommended)
Zen and the art of Faking it
The Golden Compass
The New York Times!!! What a great return to the news.
(half of) The Grapes of Wrath (mandatory for all!)
I'm sure I've left a few out.
Rowan learned how to open the car door from the outside, so now i don't have to open it for him OR clip him in!
Milo can climb up onto his bed without the stool!
I made my first batch of vegetable stock. Do NOT ask me why it took me so long to do this very simple thing.
We got the box of legos that Rachael and I had as girls out of storage and now my boys are playing with them obsesively.
I got a class where I "have" to read fiction for homework!! (40 YA books)
We've done two small trips in the car without diapers for Milo!
We finally visited our friends who moved from NY to CSprings, it was long overdue.
Rowan and Milo both got sick, and wiped out a week of plans.
I got to go to the Brown Palace for high tea with the Radicals. That was lovely, thanks girls!!
I walked the exhibition floor of the MidWinter ALA conference, surrounded by publishers and librarians!! That was pretty fun, and I got a bunch of advanced readers copies of YA fiction.
My reading list from the last few weeks
The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian S. Alexie (highly recommended)
The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants A. Brashares
The Outsiders S.E. Hinton
American Born Chinese
Speak
The Giver L.Lowry
The Shadow of the Wind C.R. Zafon(highly recommended)
Zen and the art of Faking it
The Golden Compass
The New York Times!!! What a great return to the news.
(half of) The Grapes of Wrath (mandatory for all!)
I'm sure I've left a few out.
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Congratulations everyone!
If you want to know what our family is rocking out to, it is The Obama Song by Michael Franti and others.
What a glorious day, to witness history and be proud to be an American.
Now please, any forces for good, protect this man and his family, and let him get to work.
And let this country sit up and pay attention.
please.
#44
Barack Obama
Our President!!!
What a glorious day, to witness history and be proud to be an American.
Now please, any forces for good, protect this man and his family, and let him get to work.
And let this country sit up and pay attention.
please.
#44
Barack Obama
Our President!!!
Saturday, January 3, 2009
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